Ready to change

Once we have faced our fear of change and have readied ourselves, how do we do it?  One way is to look at the change we wish to activate, and associate it with a value of high emotional importance.  This ties the desire to change with an emotional hook.  For instance, a woman has been told by her doctor that she has to cut back on her salt intake because of high blood pressure.  This starts out as a fear-based goal, because the doctor has told her she has to do it.  However, if she ties that goal (of eating less salt) to having a higher quality of life (which she values) with her partner, the desire and motivation to change becomes a conscious decision, a "want to" instead of a "have to."  When contemplating change, consider thinking about how it can be tied emotionally to an internal value, then design the external action plan to get there!